Category Archives: Guest Stories

Feline Groovy

It’s not every day – thankfully – that you hear voices crying out to you from the trash bins. (Well, maybe you do, but that’s perhaps another story for another time.) In the case of my friend Tina, she was startled by teeny-tiny mewling sounds while taking out the garbage one swelteringly hot night. And she got concerned. She donned mask and gloves, tipped over the bin, and began sifting through the trash, piece by piece, until she uncovered (warning: disturbing content) a family of five newborn kittens, tied up in garbage bags. Sadly, Tina was too late for two of them.

But my friend brought the surviving three babies indoors, cleaned them, fed them and made sure they were safe. Then our fearless Tina went back outside – at almost midnight, now – to comb the streets in search of cat mom. Unbelievably, she found her. “Not sure it’s theirs, but I coax her back to my place with food,” she wrote later in a reflection. Happily, Tina had zeroed in on the right baby mama, as became clear once they were reunited – and cuddling.

That was three months ago. Tina, who lives on the island of Cyprus, has cared for these baby kittens so well that they’re now healthy, frisky and ready for adoption. Thanks to Tina’s kindness and quick thinking, all three seem to have recovered fully from their very close call.

And speaking of close, another homeless litter of kittens (I started to write kitty litter but decided to rephrase that) made its debut right on my driveway a few weeks ago. My husband spotted them one evening as we returned home. I alerted my friend and neighbour, Natalie, who won’t tell you this herself but actually moonlights as a cat whisperer. What that means is that she and her family spent many hours and evenings at the back of my driveway, patiently enticing the five tiny felines out of the bushes with kitty num-nums, until she’d managed to take four of them into custody. A cat rescue agency has accepted them for neutering, vaccinations and adoption. These are, apparently, essential steps to combatting our community’s cat overpopulation problem. (We’re still on the hunt, by the way, for the renegade fifth kitty. Our children have distributed flyers door-to-door in the hopes that someone has spotted him – somewhat, akin, I think, to old-timey wanted posters.)

Not everyone would have the patience or the expertise to lure cats to safety and nurse them to health. (It doesn’t take much patience or expertise to donate a couple of dollars online, mind you, so if you’re inclined that way, you could always support your local animal rescue group.) Kudos to both Tina and Natalie for helping these itty-bitty kitties.

Four days after rescue: Tina’s tiny trio is lucky to be alive.

Four days after rescue: Tina’s tiny trio is lucky to be alive.


Two and a half months after rescue: Better look out for this posse of preciousness…

Two and a half months after rescue: Better look out for this posse of preciousness…

Every Dog Has Its Day

There’s something about dogs – the way they want to be your new best friend in about four seconds, the way they grin with their tongues lolling, the way they’d do anything for cheese – that captures your heart. Don’t you think? That’s why it’s unfathomable that an adorable young Irish wolfhound not far from my west-Toronto neighbourhood was let loose, without collar, tags or any other form of ID, by owners who no longer wanted him.

This little guy may have had a rough start, but it didn’t take long for his luck to turn around. First he was found by Alice Woods, a dog lover. She and her husband Nick have a pup of their own – plus a sense of humour. The couple immediately went to work plastering posters around his community that said in part: “Mom or Dad, if you’re reading this please call Nick at 416-xxx-xxxx because I am crashing at his place.” Nick and Alice included their own helpful notes: “This sweet boy looks like a young James Franco, if James Franco was an Irish wolfhound mix.” The poster was shared on social media and seen by thousands of people while Nick cared for furry JF II – quickly dubbed Seamus – at home.

Finally, the owner was located. But in an unexpected and heart-rending twist, they didn’t actually want the dog back.

Still, all this advertising led to a happy ending for Seamus. “The good news is that we were contacted by an awesome family in our neighbourhood – fenced yard, two kids, one of the parents is at home, previous dog owners – who have adopted him,” Nick told me yesterday. “So the posters did work after all.”

I’m particularly attached to this story because my own family just adopted a dog. Our daughter has been lobbying for this pretty much her whole life. Her dream finally came true when a five-year-old sweetie, beleaguered by a recent series of changes and in need of a new home, came to live with us forever.

Taking in a pet is life-changing, but as a colleague told me of her own dog: “He has made our house a home.” I congratulate Alice and Nick on their loving, patient care of an abandoned and frightened dog. And I wish a lifetime of happiness for Seamus with his new family.

I have to admit our new pup looks a little like my husband, if my husband was a salt-and-pepper miniature schnauzer. I suspect it’s the grey beard.

I have to admit our new pup looks a little like my husband, if my husband was a salt-and-pepper miniature schnauzer. I suspect it’s the grey beard.

Dear Kijiji Lady…

Yes, that’s right – I’m talking to the dear woman who posted this Kijiji ad in Saint John, New Brunswick.

What a wonderful tribute you’ve shared to the person who offered you help you last week.

You turned down her favour. True, you were struggling with a load of groceries and a fussy preschooler after an exhaustingly long day. But by this point you were a block from home, so you didn’t need the lift in her car.

Yet, still, you gave her a grateful shout-out on this mother-of-all-message-boards. You took the time to point out that even though you didn’t actually get into her red station wagon, you witnessed the ripple effect of her kindness. You confessed that her good intentions melted your heart. You observed that the two young boys with her are learning from her example.

And when you went home and wept because you can no longer afford a car and feel you’re letting down your son – and then your little four-year-old angel embraced you and cheered you on and told you how much he loved you – you honestly felt that this incredibly special moment might never have happened if the woman in the red station wagon had not offered you both a ride.

No wonder you felt compelled to post this, in the hopes that station-wagon-mom will find and read it and know much her generosity meant to you.

You don’t mind if other people read your message, too. “If you aren’t the Mom from the red station wagon,” you have written, “please take a moment when you see someone in need and offer to help, offer a kind word or even just a smile. You never know what an impact you can have on someone’s day or how that moment of kindness can be the catalyst for something greater.”

Lovely, Kijiji lady. Wishing you all the best.

Kijiji

Don’t Judge a Book (or a Biker)

Last week I wrote about a tough-looking guy who spoke really sweetly to me. On this same theme, I’d like to talk about a friend of mine we’ll call Rocky. His real name doesn’t actually sound all that hardened, but I’ve picked Rocky (other contenders were Conan and Thor) to go with the image he believes he projects to the world.

I say “believes,” because personally I’ve never known this guy to be intimidating. Let’s be clear: This is a soft-hearted, middle-aged man who has fixed a leaking water pipe in our basement, helped us with a broken table and gone out of his way to give me a ride to the train station. Rocky is one of those guys who’s constantly on-call for any friend who needs a hand, ever.

But he does ride a motorcycle. He has tattoos. He is neither short in stature, nor a beanpole in build. His email handle is “Blue Harley” (and he uses said email account to circulate some rather racy jokes). Sometimes, he is judged harshly.

Still, he writes eloquently. So when, last Friday, he had a disappointing encounter with a woman and her daughter in the coffee-shop parking lot, Rocky was moved to share the story with his friends. It’s touching, and with Rocky’s permission, I reproduce it here:

“To the family in the red SUV at Tim Horton’s today. Yes, I am a big, 230-pound guy with motorcycles and full of tattoos. I am loud, I drink Coke … and I look like I would eat your soul if you stare at me wrong.

“What you don’t know is that I have been happily married and my 30-year-old kids call me Dad. I am a college graduate, my mother is proud of me and tells everyone how lucky she is to have such a wonderful son.

“My nieces and nephews are always happy to see their Uncle Rocky. When my boys broke their bones, I cried more than they did.

“I read books, I help people, I go out of my way to thank war veterans and I even cried at Armageddon and Schindler’s List.

“So next time I smile and say hi to your little girl and you grab her and tell her ‘No, no, dear, we don’t talk to dirty bikers,’ remember that even though you hurt my feelings, this ‘dirty biker’ would be the first person to run into your burning house to save your little girl – and her goldfish, so she wouldn’t be sad!!!!”

Rocky adds at the end:

“By the way, I’m a plumber… and the fellow I was riding with was a police officer.”

Tats? Yes. Tough? Not on your life.

Tats? Yes. Tough? Not on your life.

A Berry Generous Thing to Do

What’s the best thing about becoming a great-grandmother? Ask my mom, and she might rave about the impossible sweetness of a newborn baby’s tiny face, or the stupor-inducing scent of his downy head.

But she may also mention the free strawberries she received, after racing to a pick-your-own berry farm just moments after the closed sign was hung. My mom drove in anyway, and explained her urgent reason for crashing the gate: She was going to meet her new great-grandson for the very first time, she’d promised to bring the family a strawberry shortcake, and she was desperate for the fruit. Could she possibly spend a few minutes in their strawberry patch, gathering just enough for her recipe?

The farm owner looked at her own two smiling teenage daughters, then nodded towards three baskets of freshly picked berries on a nearby table. “Take them,” she said.

“What do you mean, take them?” My mother asked, startled. “How much do I owe you for them?”

“Take them,” the other woman insisted. Yes, she was bestowing the berries on my mom as a gift. In honour of her new status as great-grandmother. And if you know my mother (well, most of you probably don’t – but you can take my word for it), she always appreciates a good, solid act of kindness. But she’s especially touched if it happens to be garden related.

Welcome to the world, baby Chase. There are a lot of awfully nice people in it.

And sometimes, they give you strawberries.

Strawberries

Good Gone Wrong

My friend Kim, who blogs about being blind, gave a classic example last week of how not to be kind. In her post “I Am Not Your Good Deed for the Day!”, she explained just how it felt to be manhandled into a chair by a coffee-shop patron who seemed bound and determined to score a few karma points. Kim wrote that the customer “…proceeded to grab me and push me towards the table. He shoved me into a chair and said, ‘I did my good deed for the day.’” (My confident and ever-eloquent pal Kim was quick to show him the error of his ways. Outbursts like “I am not an inanimate object!” and “I am not sitting at a table with someone who thinks like you!” were involved.)

Just days after I was captivated by Kim’s story, my daughter and I watched almost the same story unfold on a city bus as we headed home from a vocal lesson. It was rush hour, and consequently it was standing room only – that is, after my kid and I helped a very pregnant woman find the last vacant seat near the front of the bus.

A minute later, a woman with low vision and a white cane boarded the bus. Like anyone else of a young-enough age and with working legs, she was prepared to stay standing for the ride. But the man behind her was having none of that. “Excuse me, do you want a seat?” He asked her. “No thanks, I’m fine,” she replied. Did he listen to her? Rather, this man began wildly waving people out of their seats, announcing loudly to passengers: “She needs a seat! Give her a seat!” My daughter and I cringed on the lady’s behalf. Yet someone obediently jumped up, and the man grasped the lady’s arm and steered her towards the newly available bench. The woman was cornered. She quietly sat down.

I don’t think there’s any question that the man meant well. But as my daughter said (newly 14 and with a finely honed sense of fairness): “He treated her like an object! He thought he knew what was best for her!”

I’m all for kindnesses being extended to people with disabilities. I’ve written many times about total strangers and friends alike who have helped my husband out. By the same token, he has done many good turns for others. People with disabilities, like anyone, can excel at both performing and receiving good deeds.

But if you ask me, if both parties aren’t feeling fantastic by the end of the transaction, something has surely gone wrong in the process.

If you want to hear more disability perspectives from Kim, check out her new weekly radio show, “Welcome to My World,” on CKCU community radio at Carleton University. Listen to past episodes online at http://cod.ckcufm.com/programs/438/info.html.

Want to hear more disability perspectives from Kim? Check out her new weekly radio show, “Welcome to My World,” on CKCU community radio at Carleton University. Listen online at http://cod.ckcufm.com/programs/438/info.html.

Free Agent

Want to find a new job? Track down your biological father? Practise your stage hypnosis act? Get someone to exercise your dog? No need to shell out for employment counsellors, private detectives, private audiences or dog-walkers. There’s another option: Call the Free Help Guy. This anonymous but charity-minded man, who makes his home in London, England, set up a website offering complimentary assistance of all types when he found himself temporarily underemployed and had some time on his hands. And, yes, he’s been giving away his time and efforts to all those causes listed above… and more.

Why reach out this way? “I hope that projects, blogs, missions like this all do their bit in making this world a slightly nicer place to be a part of!” FHG says. And why, you may wonder, has our friend opted to remain incognito as he dishes out favours, gratis? He insists he has nothing to hide, but explains: “I felt I would be more accessible to people if I was anonymous… I think if people don’t have a name, face and identity to go by, then no preconceptions can cloud their judgment of my offer of free help.” He sincerely believes he makes a more open and honest connection with people without the pesky static of extra details – like names.

“If my journey can be inspiring to anyone,” FHG adds, “then I want that inspiration to come from the act of giving, rather than the person behind it.” He’s doing something right. Our pal is currently working on project number 15… not bad, considering he started in February.

Hey, anyone whose tagline is “for the next six months I’m going to make your life better” has got my support.

I have the strangest feeling I’ve seen this guy somewhere before…

I have the strangest feeling I’ve seen this guy somewhere before…